A Blog about Bullying...
So, you might ask, why have I gone to such lengths to create a website and workshop to combat bullying at the college where I work?
First, I'm an over-achiever with Asperger's Syndrome who does everything over-the-top. It's who I am. I go the extra mile, or ten. Why create a short email, document, or website when I can make it awesome? My excessive attention to detail is what has made me very successful in my career -- until I ran into the cultural buzz saw at the college where I now work, that is. (I came out of early retirement for this? I ask myself as I hit my forehead with my palm...)
Second, since I was bullied as a child, now as an adult I'm tired of the bullies of the world working in the shadows to intimidate the people around them. Shining a light on their activities may at least make them think twice about bullying their co-workers.
Next, I created the anti-bullying website and workshop for my colleagues and for those who will follow me here. I'm doing this because the college has such potential to be a great place to work. I sharing my experiences to try to encourage the college leadership to make positive changes in the culture of the college instead of hoping the whole situation will go away.
Finally, I'm doing this to give me an outlet for my thoughts about being the target of a bully and her supporters. I'm not angry or depressed (anymore), I don't hate my bullies (hate is corrosive to the soul and it's not productive), and I don't resent my co-workers for not standing up to the bullies (I probably couldn't have done it if I were them either).
I hope you find this website useful in dealing with bullies in your organization.
I have some sympathy for the bully's feelings, but I have no tolerance for their bullying behavior. Actions are a choice and bullies choose to hurt people.
"We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies."
-- Martin Luther King, Jr.